When two identical conducting spheres touch, their charges distribute equally. The combined charge of both spheres is:
\[
Q_{\text{total}} = 4 \times 10^{-6} \, \text{C}.
\]
Consequently, the charge on each sphere post-contact is:
\[
Q = \frac{4 \times 10^{-6}}{2} = 2 \times 10^{-6} \, \text{C}.
\]
Applying Coulomb's law for the repulsive force between the spheres:
\[
F = \frac{1}{4\pi \epsilon_0} \frac{Q^2}{r^2}.
\]
Inputting the given force and charge values to determine the distance \( r \):
\[
9 \times 10^{-3} = \frac{9 \times 10^9 \times (2 \times 10^{-6})^2}{r^2}.
\]
Solving for \( r \) yields \( r = 4 \, \text{cm} \).
Final Answer: \( 4 \, \text{cm} \).