Write the friction force using the standard Coulomb friction model.
\[F = \mu N\]
This immediately shows F depends on the normal load N, so (A) holds. It also shows F does not contain a term for the nominal contact area, so friction does not change if you just spread the same load over a larger apparent surface, confirming (B).
The coefficient \(\mu\) itself is a property of the pair of materials sliding against each other, rougher or stickier materials give a higher \(\mu\), which confirms (D).
Statement (C) claims F scales with the actual area of contact, but the model above has no such term, it directly contradicts the independence stated in (B), so (C) is false.
\[\boxed{\text{Option 3: (A), (B) and (D) only}}\]