Step 1: Use the equation the roots satisfy, instead of the sum-of-squares identity.
Since $\alpha,\beta$ are roots of $5x^2-16x-10=0$, each satisfies $5x^2=16x+10$, so $\alpha^2=\frac{16\alpha+10}{5}$ and $\beta^2=\frac{16\beta+10}{5}$.
Step 2: Add these to get $\alpha^2+\beta^2$.
$\alpha^2+\beta^2=\frac{16(\alpha+\beta)+20}{5}$. Since $\alpha+\beta=-\frac{b}{a}=\frac{16}{5}$, this gives $\alpha^2+\beta^2=\frac{16\times\frac{16}{5}+20}{5}=\frac{\frac{256}{5}+\frac{100}{5}}{5}=\frac{356}{25}$.
Step 3: Divide by the product of the roots.
$\alpha\beta=\frac{c}{a}=\frac{-10}{5}=-2$, so $\frac{\alpha}{\beta}+\frac{\beta}{\alpha}=\frac{\alpha^2+\beta^2}{\alpha\beta}=\frac{356/25}{-2}=-\frac{178}{25}$.
\[ \boxed{-\frac{178}{25}} \]