Rather than deriving one general algebraic condition first, we can plug each candidate pair $(\xi,\eta)$ straight into the original equation $af_{xx} + bf_{yy} = 8f$ and check the arithmetic directly, using $f_{xx} = 4\xi^2 f$ and $f_{yy} = \eta^2 f$ from differentiating $f = e^{2\xi x+\eta y}$ twice.
Since $a$ and $b$ are distinct positive numbers, none of these divisions run into trouble (we never divide by zero), so the arithmetic above holds for every valid choice of $a,b$.
Let's summarize:
The correct options are (A) and (D).
\[ \boxed{\text{(A) and (D)}} \]